March 22, 2017

15 Quick "Q and A" with Ada...



Hey lovelies,

I know I've been M.I.A for a while but I assure you all that I'll be back and active this year. Here's my first post for 2017 with some Q and A's that I quickly scribbled. Thought I should make it a little personal so you all could get to know me. I hope you enjoy them and let me know your thoughts about my responses in the comment section below.


1. What are your pet names? What do you prefer to be called?

Apart from a whole bunch of pet names my husband randomly makes up when he feels like, Ada or Adaora is absolutely fine.

2. What do you do during your spare time?

A lot. As a result of my busy schedule, one thing you will for sure catch me doing is SLEEPING. I don't joke with my sleep especially when I have the slightest opportunity to. Otherwise, it's either I'm watching a movie with my husband when he gets back from work, or I'm either blogging or just reading an online article.


3. What is your Primary Love Language and Why?

Yes I do have a love language and the one that speaks the loudest is "Acts of Service". To me, it's the most powerful form of love and devotion to your partner.  I'm one of those girls that believe in talking less and doing more. A lot of people have said that a woman is being wooed by what she hears not what she sees while on the other hand, men are moved by what they see. That's a myth to me. You may give your loved one words of affirmation, but they are thinking, “Cut the talk. If you love me, you would do something around here.” For them, actions truly speak louder than words. 

I respect other love languages, but "Act of Service" tends to  be the deal breaker.  If your partner keeps talking and sugar-coating words more than the "doing" part, you might begin to feel some sense of un-seriousness in him or her.

4. What is your advice to Single ladies out there waiting for Mr. Right?

First and foremost, make yourself ready. We ladies are so caught up with the illusion that we need that perfect gentleman that will sweep us off our feet. But we've failed to ask ourselves, are we the right person for the right man out there? Have we readily prepared and nurtured ourselves to enter this institution called Marriage? If we are praying for a future partner, also remember that a Godly man out there is also praying for his Mrs. Right too. Every man would want to look at his wife someday and thank God that she is exactly the woman he prayed for.

Secondly, PATIENCE is very key. It is a rare virtue which not so many of us possess. We give God timelines forgetting that God's timing is the best. It is better to marry LATE than to marry WRONG and trust me, even in God's calendar, there is nothing like a late marriage. Let's learn to be patient and marry right once and for all.

5. What are the 2 super attractive qualities you like in a Man?

Being very successful at what you do and staying HUMBLE at the same time. It's like one of the deal breakers for me. I find this quality rare in most men who are successful and self-made. To me, that's the time you really get to know the man for who he truly is.

Secondly ATTENTIVENESS: Knowing that he is always there to listen to me, value my opinion, show concern for my interests rather than focusing on my insecurities. Such quality is beyond human description or comprehension.

6. What are you completely bored of right now?

The hype in social media where folks try to both impress and oppress others. We see people on daily basis trying to portray a completely different image abstract from whom they truly are while some viewers on the other hand, get carried away by these false flamboyance  and end up putting themselves in messy situations that they cannot easily come out from in order to be like them.


6. Heels or Flats?

Heels

7. Any regrets about life?

None. Mistakes are always bound to happen and we are not expected to be perfect in any form or shape. The most important thing is learning from those mistakes and ensuring that they serve as lessons and life examples to guide us throughout life.

8. Do you believe in getting Comfortable or Settling?

Well, it depends on the context. Overall, I don't believe one should get comfortable about their current position because it will make you dwell in mediocracy. It's always good to get up and look for opportunities which can help you harness your current knowledge, skill or abilities. Sometimes, people just prefer to do what they are already used to, they prefer to stay in their comfort zones because they are afraid of change. They are afraid of being rejected or denied. They are afraid of the unknown and it's consequences which its fine. Settling for less shouldn't be an option for anyone. We should always learn to thrive in the midst of any obstacle.

9. Any Pet Peeves?

Frenemies. People faking to be your friend when they actually know that they're not. Let's be clear, either we're friends or we're not...the in-between situation is tiring and energy-consuming. 

10. Any advice for youths and young adults?

Always believe in yourself and in what you do. The only thing that can stop you in moving forward is the person you see when you look in the mirror. You are your best support system and let no one tell you that you are not worth achieving that goal.

11. Are you more likely to avoid conflict or engage it head-on?

Avoid it right on.


12. Do you have a whole lot of acquaintances or just a few very close friends? Why?

Few close friends. Makes my life so easy and drama-free.


13. When do you find yourself singing?

Whenever I remember how God has been faithful to me and my family


14. What was the best news you've received so far this year?

When my dad's operation went successful without any complications

15. How do you think one can make their lives more meaningful, starting from today?

The ability to stop procrastinating. Procrastination at its worst does not bring any favorable circumstances. It's s a bad habit I know we all are somehow trying to curb because it's neither considered as good in one’s personal life nor is it accepted in one’s occupation, because the person who is in this habit faces problems in his personal life and loses many chances, such as, promotions or rewards etc. in his employment. He is unable to maintain his self-image in a good manner among his peers. Management is not willing to support him in the process of career development. There is not any progress for him in terms of gaining good experience as well. So I urge us to drop this bad practice and begin the act of "DOING". This will go a long way to bring about a favourable outcome.


I hope you'll enjoyed my Q and A session. Please let me know if you would like to see more of this on the blog, that way we can make it a series.

Until next time, remain blessed!!!

Lots of Love,

Ada... xoxo



March 09, 2016

Our Guest Post on "The Praying Woman"


Hello Lovelies,

How are you all doing? As some of you may already  know, my article was featured last week on The Praying Woman's Website titled When God Refuses To Open A Door and I was glad to see quite a number of ladies who shared their testimonies as to how they believed God for an open door and He gave them something totally different, far much better than they could ever ask or imagine.

Sometimes, we think we are too qualified for a particular position based on the knowledge and experiences we've acquired, hoping that as soon as the interviewer takes a glance at our resume or hear us speak, we will immediately be hired. This isn't always the case especially for faith-believing Christians. God can position you in any given place, where you do not even qualify to be. He can break every protocol for your sake. Where you think you'll be placed in life might fail you and you'll begin to ask God why. Is something wrong?

Be calm! God isn't asleep. Not all open doors are doors of blessings, some are open doors in disguise to lure you into further destruction. God is preparing a better place for you that is why he has refused to open that door. His time to elevate you has come and you won't remain in that same level again.

Click on the above link to read our featured post!

Have a blessed week and I  look forward to seeing you all in my next blog post..

Lots of love,

Ada xoxo!!!



February 27, 2016

SINACH | WAY MAKER



Verse 1
You are here moving in our midst
I worship you - 2x

You are here working in this place
I worship you - 2x

Repeat Verse 1

(Chorus) 

February 20, 2016

Why Am I in this Relationship?




As a huge fan of Judge Lynn Toler's TV show, DIVORCE COURT, I've come to realize that so many relationships and marriages fail because people shy away from asking themselves and their supposed partners the necessary questions before venturing into this thing called Love.  We often misplace lust for love because they both come with very strong emotions and if care isn't taken, you might simply be lusting after someone thinking you are in love. There is little to no effort made towards preparedness and often times, you find out that one partner is so fixed on trying to correct or change the other person's actions without even realizing that they might just be the cause of that problem.

Over the years, I've attended several relationship seminars/workshops and when certain questions were being asked by fellow participants, I then realized that people actually do go into relationships for the weirdest reasons. Reasons such as feeling lonely, desired, bored or just broke to the extent of not having enough money to pay their rent. You'll hear words like "I need someone who is financially capable to cater for my needs....  It's a man's world and it's not my sole responsibility to foot the bills... bla bla bla". Well, I understand that sometimes people's backgrounds and upbringings play a major role in the way they think about certain aspects of life and the economic system can also have a negative impact on their ability to make certain ends meet but this isn't still a valid reason to venture into a relationship. And as always, any relationship entered into with such motives will eventually have a U-turn and the repercussion can be very disastrous. Some others dive in due to parental pressure, physical attraction, trying to feel among, and all what not. Alot out there are incredibly desperate for some TLC because they feel they've been single for a long time and it's time to get some good loving.